Have you ever said to yourself something like, “I am so fat and ugly”? Are you really fat and ugly or is just a perception that you have? I bet it is the latter. But it does not matter what I think, if you feel that you are fat, you need to find a way to deal with a situation like that. Here is how:
Crisis trigger Midway through your morning routine, you realize that your skin is blotchy, absolutely no amount of product will defrizz your hair and everything in your closet makes you look 10 pounds heavier. By the way, here is how to lose 10 pounds.
It is tempting to Put your pajamas back on and spend the day in bed eating ice cream straight from the carton, rush off to the mall and max out your credit card on a new wardrobe, or head to your hairstylist and tell her to “chop it all off!”
Bounce back by Leaving the house, as much as you might dread it. “Removing yourself from the physical focus allows you to think more clearly and objectively,” says Bernardo Carducci, Ph.D., a professor of psychology and director of the Shyness Research Institute. The alternative – sitting around moping about a bad hair (or skin or body) day – will only make you feel lazy and worse about yourself.
Shake off your low feeling by having coffee or getting a manicure with your most supportive friend, testing a new eye shadow that flatters your pretty eyes or buying a sleeveless shirt (just one) that highlights your great biceps. “You can’t just try to think yourself better; you have to do something tangible to pick yourself up,” says Maryann Troiani, a life coach and coauthor of Change Your Underwear, Change Your Life: Quick and Easy Ways to Make Your Life Fun, Exciting, and Vibrant.
To help avoid future meltdowns, do away with unrealistic expectations about your appearance. “Pay attention to the person you’re comparing yourself with,” says Lynne Henderson, Ph.D., director of the Shyness Clinic in California. “If your idea of the perfect woman is some actress from Baywatch, you’re never going to be happy,” she adds.
Think of other women with your body, hair or skin type, and ask yourself if you consider them attractive. Since you probably do not find them fat or ugly, you deserve to show yourself the same respect. [via]